Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Worst sleep ever!

Last night was officially the worst sleep Em has ever done. She woke at EVERY SLEEP CYCLE. I'm not exaggerating. That brings it to about 9 wakings from the time I put her down at 8pm till she woke in the morning at 7am. It got to a point where I didn't even have to look at the clock to know it had only been 50 mins or so since I last put her down. Ok, maybe once it was an hour and a half...

WHAT IS GOING ON????

The previous days leading up to this were bad enough - waking every 2 hours or so - but I didn't for the life of me expect it to get worse! It started during the holidays in Australia and of course I was only hoping it would get better when we return. That she would miraculously "mature" and gain a longer sleep cycle at 6 months like everyone out there claims will happen.

I'm so sad. Em used to do great 3 to 4.5 hr stretches, waking like clockwork at 1am and again at 4am for feedings. I can't believe I used to complain about that! I'd give anything to have that back right now. I guess we have REGRESSED. I do everything I can during the day to try and make sure she will sleep during the night and she regresses??? Urgh!

So now I'm caught in a dilemma, where I previously decided that I would simply nurse Em back to sleep everytime she wakes at night, I didn't account for the fact that it might happen at EVERY sleep cycle! What now? I know she can't possibly be hungry, she's just nursing for comfort as her way of transitioning between sleep cycles. What a mess I've gotten myself into! 

I really don't know how this happened... Or maybe I do. Maybe I cultivated this bad habit for her and now expect her to break it. Maybe it was over the holidays where I pretty much held her to sleep the whole night because she wouldn't sleep in a unfamiliar cot. Maybe that's where it started. Maybe it's the casual nursings I allow her to have as I put her down for naps. Maybe that's how she learns she needs to nurse to sleep... Or she's teething, or over-tired, or under-tired even... or maybe it's cos we started her on solids? But shouldn't that have the opposite effect? Whatever the case, I need to find a way of helping her learn to transition between sleep cycles without relying on me.

These persistent night-wakings have to stop.

Which brings me to the age old question - to sleep-train or not? And if I do, which method will I choose? The hard and fast CIO? Or gentle and slow "controlled crying"? Or maybe the really slow and "easy-on-the-bub-but-requires-lots-of-patience" no cry sleep solution? I'm sure they all work, it's just which one I think I will be able to commit to. After all, I don't want to start on CIO for one night and then not be able to go through with it the next - my waffling will only make things worse and confuse poor Em even more.

Maybe I will see how tonight goes before making a decision. Maybe it was a one-off... Though I doubt it. Heck, I have no idea what to expect from her anymore. I guess this is Motherhood!

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